Infidelity

Has one or both of you been unfaithful to your spoken or unspoken vows of monogamy and you are now in the midst of a crisis? Perhaps it happened years ago, and your relationship was frozen in time without addressing the problem, but you feel "stuck," afraid to bring it up again. Maybe one or both of you suspect the other, but are afraid of the landslide of emotions or actions that will follow.

In my experience as a licensed professional counselor and licensed marriage and family therapist, I have counseled many couples who are suffering from the actions that would considered infidelity, whether it be actual long-term physical/emotional affairs, one-night stands, emotional affairs, or simply cybersex. In couples that have vowed to be monogamous, either implicitly or explicitly, all of these activities fall under the heading of "infidelity" because they represent a break in the contract between the members of the partnership.

Research has shown that many partners who have been cheated on experience the knowledge of the infidelity as a trauma, and therefore it has far-reaching effects on the relationship of the couple. In addition, the partner who was a part of the affair can have tremendous feelings of denial, guilt, confusion, shame, depression and hopelessness as well. It is often a major crisis in a marriage, and very difficult to recover from without specialized intervention.

I have special training in helping couples who are recovering from affairs. Aside from my couples counseling experience, I have participated in two specialized workshops for Affair Recovery which were taught by clinicians who have over 25 years' experience working couples who are suffering from infidelity issues.

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